Ever since the Toronto van attack brought the Incel movement into public awareness, people around me have periodically made statements expressing bafflement at their violence, rationale, and rhetoric. Indeed, their violence, rationale, and rhetoric — or at least the sensational bits pounced upon by the media — are illogical.
However, it has occurred to me that feminism has the same kinds of detractors, for basically the same reasons. As far as I know, no mass murders or violence have been carried out in the name of feminism. However, feminists do put out some horrific rhetoric, including espousing and rationalizing violence against men. Many people, both men and women, fail to understand feminism, or disagree with feminism for the wrong reasons, simply because the people who call themselves feminists do a very bad job of representing feminism.